RUTS are made to be broken
Rise from a Relationship "Rut". Moving past it ... and you will move past it …
We've all been there. Feeling like we're trapped in the same, boring routine and there's no way out. Ruts are generally accompanied by low energy, bad mood, and a sense of helplessness.
Why?
Ruts are mental quicksand. It seems like the harder we try to get out, the more we fall back in.
So, what's the best way out? Ruts, like quicksand, are almost always more of an emotional challenge than they are physical. Slows your movements, slow your thought process, then assess your choices, gradually make a course of action, and recognize when to ask for and accept help. Don't get so lost dwelling on past "should've" and "could've" moments that you forget about your current choices, panic, and dig yourself further.
Use the moment to re-examine and ask yourself:
Where am I at in this situation?
What are some realistic options I could do right now?
Which of these options is most reasonable and requires the lowest effort?
Then, take action on the lowest effort option you've selected!
Start small and build on each task, addressing the smaller, lower energy items first. My favorite first task when getting out of a negative pattern is making a list of my past successes and things I enjoy. It not only leaves me feeling more positive, but it reminds me of what I'm capable of.
Just like when getting out of quicksand, a series of small efforts building upon one another is going to be FAR more successful than taking a big leap.
Find an accountability partner to throw you a rope, or someone to lift you up with moral support. Know when to ask for and accept help – we all need it from time to time!
Choose to be your best friend, not your enemy.